When One Parent Posts Hurtful Things on Social Media: What You Can Do
May 13, 2025

Co-parenting is never easy, and it becomes even harder when one parent uses social media to post negative or hurtful things about the other. These posts can feel like personal attacks, and they can also create stress and confusion for your child, especially if they are old enough to see or hear about what's being said.


If you’re dealing with this kind of situation, here are some steps you can take to protect yourself, your child, and your peace of mind:

 

1. Don’t Engage Online

As tempting as it may be to defend yourself or respond publicly, avoid replying to the post. Engaging in a social media battle only adds fuel to the fire and can make things worse. It may also be used against you in court or mediation. Take the high road—even when it’s hard.

 

2. Document Everything

Take screenshots of every harmful post. Include the date and time when you saved it. This documentation may be helpful if you need to show a judge, mediator, or parenting coordinator what’s happening. Keep your own comments and posts respectful and neutral—you want to be seen as the reasonable parent.


3. Focus on Your Child

Try not to let social media drama distract you from what matters most—your child’s well-being. Children can be hurt by seeing their parents attack each other. Stay focused on creating a peaceful and stable environment for them, and don’t involve them in the conflict.

 

4. Use the Right Channels

If the social media behavior becomes harassment or crosses legal boundaries, consider talking to your attorney or asking the court to set communication or social media boundaries as part of your parenting plan. In some cases, the court may issue an order limiting what can be said publicly about the other parent.

If you’re working with a mediator or parenting coordinator, bring up the issue in your sessions. A neutral third party can help set guidelines and improve communication in a more productive setting.


5. Take Care of Yourself

Being attacked—especially online—can take a toll on your mental and emotional health. Talk to a counselor or therapist if you need support. Lean on trusted friends and family who know your character and can help remind you that you don’t need to defend yourself to strangers on the internet.


Final Thoughts

Social media shouldn’t be used as a weapon in co-parenting. But if you find yourself on the receiving end of online attacks, know that you are not alone—and you do have options. Keep your focus on your child, stay calm, and seek help through the appropriate channels. The way you handle this situation can show your child what healthy boundaries and emotional maturity look like.

If you’re struggling with high-conflict co-parenting, mediation or parenting coordination may help. At Hope For Our Future, LLC, we’re here to support families in finding peaceful, child-centered solutions

This post was written by Chelle Hendershot, who is a dedicated Mediator, Guardian ad Litem, and Parenting Coordinator at Hope For Our Future, LLC, with a passion for helping individuals and families navigate through life's most challenging moments. This post is not intended to be legal advice and is for marketing purposes only.
 
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