Five Top Reasons Mediation Fails
May 9, 2023

Mediation is a popular alternative to traditional litigation, allowing parties to resolve disputes in a non-adversarial, cost-effective, and confidential manner. However, like any other process, mediation can sometimes fail. In this blog post, we will discuss the top reasons why mediation can fail and offer solutions to prevent it.


Lack of Preparation: One of the main reasons why mediation can fail is a lack of preparation. Parties may come to mediation unprepared, without a clear understanding of their needs and interests, or without the necessary documentation to support their positions. The solution is to ensure that parties are well-prepared and have all the information they need to make informed decisions. Mediators can provide parties with a checklist of documents and information needed, as well as offer guidance on how to prepare for mediation.


Unrealistic Expectations: Another common reason why mediation can fail is unrealistic expectations. Parties may come to mediation expecting a complete resolution of all their issues or a one-sided outcome. The solution is to manage expectations and help parties understand that mediation is a collaborative process that requires compromise and negotiation. Mediators can help parties set realistic goals and expectations for the mediation process.


Lack of Trust: A lack of trust between parties can also cause mediation to fail. Parties may be unwilling to share information or may be suspicious of the other party's motives. The solution is to build trust and rapport between parties. Mediators can help parties establish a relationship of trust and respect by setting ground rules for communication, ensuring that both parties have an opportunity to speak, and using active listening and empathic communication.


Failure to Communicate: Effective communication is essential to the success of mediation. If parties are unable to communicate effectively, mediation may fail. The solution is to ensure that parties have the necessary communication skills to participate in mediation. Mediators can provide guidance on effective communication techniques, such as active listening, reframing, and summarizing.


Inflexibility: Finally, inflexibility can also cause mediation to fail. Parties may be unwilling to consider alternative solutions or may be stuck in a rigid position. The solution is to encourage flexibility and creativity. Mediators can help parties brainstorm creative solutions and evaluate the pros and cons of each option. Mediators can also suggest compromises that may not have been considered before.


By addressing these issues and working collaboratively, parties can increase the likelihood of success in mediation. If you are considering mediation as a way to resolve a dispute, be sure to choose a skilled and experienced mediator who can help you navigate the process effectively.


This blog post was written by Chelle Hendershot, Registered Mediator, Hope For Our Future, LLC. This blog is not intended to be legal advice or a solicitation for services. It is an advertisement.


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