Co-Mediation - Why would I want that?
May 9, 2023

Mediation is a dispute resolution process in which a neutral third party, known as the mediator, helps parties in conflict reach a mutually acceptable agreement. In some cases, the mediation process can be challenging and complex, making it difficult for a single mediator to manage. This is where co-mediation can be an effective solution. Co-mediation involves two or more mediators working together to facilitate the mediation process. In this blog post, we will discuss the benefits of co-mediation and how it can lead to successful mediation outcomes.


Diverse Perspectives: One of the primary benefits of co-mediation is the ability to bring diverse perspectives to the table. With multiple mediators, parties can benefit from the different experiences and backgrounds of each mediator. This can lead to a more comprehensive understanding of the issues and a more creative approach to problem-solving.


Balanced Power Dynamics: When there is more than one mediator, power dynamics between the parties and the mediator can be balanced. In some cases, one mediator may have a stronger personality or better rapport with one party, which can create an imbalance. With co-mediation, the balance of power is spread more evenly, creating a fair and unbiased environment.


More Efficient Process: Co-mediation can lead to a more efficient process. With two or more mediators, tasks can be divided, allowing for a more streamlined process. For example, one mediator may handle logistics and scheduling, while the other mediators focus on the substantive issues of the case.


Enhanced Communication: Co-mediation can improve communication between the parties. With multiple mediators, there are more opportunities for communication to occur. Mediators can work together to encourage parties to speak openly and listen to each other. This can lead to a deeper understanding of the issues and better outcomes.


Increased Flexibility: Co-mediation allows for greater flexibility in the mediation process. With multiple mediators, parties can meet at different times or locations, depending on their schedules. This can lead to a more convenient process for the parties and can help ensure that the mediation process moves forward.


If you are considering mediation for a dispute, it may be worthwhile to consider co-mediation as an option.


This blog post was written by Chelle Hendershot, Registered Mediator, Hope For Our Future, LLC. This blog is not intended to be legal advice or a solicitation for services. It is an advertisement.


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